Growing up, my mom and dad didn’t go on date nights or show affection towards one another. They both worked 9-5 and spend the weekend running errands or doing housework. We didn’t even say “I Love You” to each other. So, when Brady and I got married twenty-years ago, I knew things were going to be different. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t want to walk around showing P.D.A., but I wanted him to know everyday how much I loved him. Fast forward fifteen years and two kids later. Brady and I still say “I love You” to each other before we leave for the day, but spending time together was a thing the past. I had become so wrapped up in being a mom that I forgot about being a wife. Have you ever had a conversation with someone and it made a lasting impression? Well, that’s the type of conversation Brady and I had.
One night, Brady suggested we go away for the weekend. I was surprised since he knows how I feel about leaving the kids behind. “We only have 18 years with our kids, I told him, we can go away once they’re grown and moved out” That’s when it dawned on me. I had become my parents. Sure, we still said “I love you” on a daily basis, but showing affection and appreciating my husband had become a thing of the past. I was so concerned about being the best mom, I had forgotten how to be a “wife.” I needed to change for us and for our children. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you need to stop dating your husband.
So, then and there we made a commitment to each other. Brady and I decided to make Wednesday night our date night. Since money was tight, we would visit the local coffee shop and just talk. That was always our favorite activity to do when we were dating. Brady owned a truck and we would order a pizza and have a picnic on the back of his truck. We would spend hours looking at the sky and talking. Being at the coffee shop brought back those memories. It’s been 4 years since Brady and I decided to make time us! Now, since the boys are 16 and 12, our date nights have gotten more elaborate. Sure, we still grab some coffee, but we also try out new restaurants in town or go away for the weekend. I’m so excited to see what the future holds for us. It’s funny because the boys get excited for date night as well. We grab their favorite fast food and usually do something special for dessert as well. Just because you’re married, doesn’t mean you should stop dating!
What about you? Do you still date your spouse? If so, what are your favorite “date night” activities? Dot