I often wonder if it is people that make life more complicated than it really needs to be? I know that we can’t control the weather of life itself. We can’t control what is coming unseen around the corner… But the one thing we can control is how we behave towards one and other. I think that the more we try to understand each other… The better versions of ourselves we will be. It is not an easy thing to do but genuinely, if we all understood each others point of view a little bit better, we would be less likely to react and more keen to be kind!
I know that we are all different, and thank goodness for that!! The diversity of the world allows for us to learn so much about how to live, and how not to too! Some of us are beautifully in tune with each other, and some just see the world differently….. My husband very clearly has his Emotional Intelligence radar switched to “WTF”…. More often than not, he totally misses the point!! He totally misses the importance of something that means so much to me! It is actually amazing we are still married and indeed still laughing! His eye for detail and technical proficiency just isn’t the same as my Philosophical musing and deep thoughts. Quite frankly they don’t match at all!
I guess what I am getting at…. Is if someone says something, or does something, and you feel hurt or anger or damaged by the words or the action…. Before you react… Before you decide the relationship is irrevocably damaged… Just stop for a moment…. Breathe in love. Breathe in kindness…. and ask them “What do you mean?” “Why did you do that?” More often than not, those words, those actions weren’t intended to hurt or upset you. You’ve just turned your feelings in to facts, judged what you heard instead of the intention behind the actions. I think what we all need to do… Is pause for thought, seek to understand, and choose compassion.
Look after you. Look after each other
Love and light
Betty S x