Parenting Is Hard Enough— Try Removing The Word ‘Should’ and Set Yourself Free

Parenting is hard enough— Try removing the word ‘should’ and set yourself free

Having a chronic illness can play with your mind, so a few years ago I started to read self- help books.

‘You Can Heal Your Life’, by Louise Hay, was one of the first books I read. I started saying affirmations and thinking positive thoughts, but I felt like there was still something missing.  Some days I felt better and that I was moving more into a positive light, yet other days I felt I was right back to being a helpless victim. What really brought positive change to my life was removing an often used word from my vocabulary.

Louise Hay has taught me that what we give out we get back. What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us and if we are constantly doubting ourselves or using the word should it is sending a message to the Universe that we are wrong.

“Should” is a word that makes a prisoner of us and every time we use the word should we are making ourselves wrong or someone else wrong.”- Louise Hay

When we constantly use this word with ourselves and our children we are saying— not good enough, or you have failed, or you are wrong.

Listen to how often you use this word.  Try replacing the word should with could. Could gives us choice­­ — choice is freedom.

Create your experiences by your thinking feeling patterns. Every time you say should—let a red light go off in your mind— then let it go and replace it with a more positive word.

See how removing the word ‘should’ from your vocabulary may set you free!

This is what it did for me—

1)      Freedom- I felt free to do what I wanted, when I wanted

2)      Guilt- I no longer felt guilty

3)      Attitude- My attitude changed for the better

4)      Blame- I no longer played the blame game with myself or others

5)      Body Language- My body language changed and I opened myself up to a Universe of wonderful  possibilities