By: Karen Dennis, owner of The Next Best Thing To Mummy
Most of the tantrums that a 2 year old has can be dealt with quite simply:
Basically don’t give in to bad behaviour. Unwanted behaviour is often a form of attention seeking, ignore unwanted behaviour wherever possible and reward the good, wanted behaviour. A reward can be as simple as verbal praise, don’t get into the habit of giving gifts as a reward for good behaviour; children will soon use this as a way of getting more expensive presents, which will result in behaving well for the wrong reason.
I remember being at a toddler group when working as a registered child minder: I had an 8 month old baby on my lap and two older children were playing on the floor in front of me, the 2 year old boy started to misbehave as a way of getting attention, he also wanted me to put the baby down.
I managed to distract him for a moment by pointing to something out of the window, he then tried to push the baby off of my lap. A parent at the group made a comment about the boy’s behaviour, I politely explained that it was typical behaviour for a child of his age.
To keep everyone happy I managed to keep the baby on one knee and let the 2 year old sit on my other one.
Temper tantrums in a 2 year old are sometimes because they don’t have the communication skills to explain what they want and get frustrated when an adult doesn’t understand.
I looked after a girl who didn’t have this problem; she was an advanced talker for her age of rising 3, in fact she would tell me when she was going to be naughty!
I dealt with this by giving her verbal encouragement for the smallest sign of any good behaviour and then upped the anti by giving stickers as a reward . It didn’t take long for her to learn that being good got her positive results.
The terrible two’s are a normal phase of development that most, but not all children go through.
In my experience coping with the terrible two’s is a doddle compared with teenage years!
I have written on behaviour management in more detail in an earlier post.
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Until next time.