Mom, Motivational speaker, executive, and owner of Motivating Other Mothers, Alexsandra Wright has worked with and continues to work with thousands of mothers, motivating them towards a path of personal success. It was her Mother, however, who introduced her to the term, “Golden Handcuffs”. Her mother explained that many of the things we come to rely on, beauty, money, relationships, or titles, can make us complacent and they easily become a crutch or an excuse for what we’ve come to accept for ourselves. Alexsandra believes that the “Golden Handcuffs” are a comfortable set of boundaries and habits that keep us from reaching our full potential.
We as individuals, especially as parents, allow ourselves to be handcuffed to things that make us comfortable. Whether it is not eating properly to an unhealthy relationship, it may look nice and golden” on the outside but it can bring distrust, decay and dishonor to our spirit.
Alexsandra attests that at one time in her life, she too, was chained with golden handcuffs. Her executive career was a great one, her personal successes look wonderful to any outsider and financially, she was very comfortable by any standards. These were the achievements she felt defined her but they were LIMITING.
Once she was placed in the spotlight, it added to challenges of standing firm in who she was and compounded the work to move forward positively and with meaning. She created a seven step program for herself to take off them handcuffs and make herself UNCOMFORTABLE in order to reach her true calling, to help other Mothers.
Here are the seven steps to free you from your GOLDEN HANDCUFFS:
Things you hold onto may be the things holding you back. ~ AlexSandra Wright
IDENTIFY – Identify what are the hindrances in your life that keep you locked into your golden handcuffs. Is it an abusive relationship? A skeleton in your closet? Are there people in your family or social circles that keep you “locked in?” Identify these people and situations. What role do you play in perpetuating your own challenges. Be true to yourself and clearly understand where the problems lie.
CLARIFY – Understand where you’ve been. Understand all the circumstances that surround Understand what you want. What have you seen? Listen to the rhythm of your internal language that has created your current reality. Why are you in this situation? Understand that we have exactly what we want and we have manifested our clearest visions.
UNDERSTAND– What you have already manifested and realize what it is you truly want, without being held down by your golden handcuffs. Is it a job you will actually love without the huge paycheck? Do you want to spend more time with your children and less time with your friends or coworkers? Understand your dreams.
DEFINE-Clearly define challenges, blockages, and dependencies/co-dependencies. Simplify the challenges you may feel are very complicated and write them down. Create your ritual of release (we write them down and light them on fire, put them in a bottle drop it in the ocean, or use lantern release). Be easy with yourself. Letting go is not particularly easy. Take your time and use your soft inner affirmations to gently guide your spirit to acceptance.
REACH-Create a viable new way to reach your goal that is approached from a complete, 360 degree holistic way. Create new language for yourself (such as positive affirmations. Take out the word “But and Still”).
COMMIT – Pledge integrity and loyalty to yourself. Create your plan of action to manifest your new goals. Use one of our tools (#MOM vision boards, #MOM bracelets, #MOM workbooks and journals, #MOM affirmations etc…) or create your own. Believe in yourself, you are worth the commitment, your children are worth you committing to your own happiness. Happy parents make happy children.
MANIFEST – Honor how you inherited your golden handcuffs. Recall how you allowed yourself to be handcuff and celebrate that you are now moving forward. Breathe in the freedom. Each day is a new step. Celebrate all of you, while you manifest the best new you. There is no better time to discover your infinite greatness. MOVE WITH PURPOSE
With these seven steps to success, you can unchain yourself from your golden handcuffs and celebrate a life of love, life, happiness and freedom. You deserve the best. Now it is time for you to begin the journey of the true gift of self.
Alexsandra does not just teach the 7 Steps out of the Golden Handcuffs, she walks the talk. Check back with us in a few weeks with another wonderful success story of a Mom leaving her Golden Handcuffs behind. This magnificent mom will be presenting her program “Day Spa For The Spirit” around the globe in 2015-2016. We will be posting cities, countries, and dates in February 2015. Make sure to stop by MotivatingOtherMothers.com for sneak peeks and pre-registration.