By: Karen Dennis from The Next Best Thing To Mummy
Bullying is horrible and there is no excuse for it in my opinion.
Thankfully I have never been bullied and neither have any of my children.
A friend once told me that she was picked on at school by another girl ( it was over a boy which my friend said she didn’t even like much). Another girl who had designs on this particular boy told her, “Stay away from him, or else!”
My friend decided that she wasn’t going to be told what to do by a bully, so the next time this girl came near, she took a deep breath and using all her courage she pushed her. The bully walked away and never bothered her again.
Standing up to bullies is recommended, but when my husband told our sons, ” If anyone hits you, hit them back twice as hard.” I remember thinking that 2 wrongs don’t make a right.
I would suggest that if your child is being bullied, sit down and talk to them about it calmly, going to the school about it may not be what your child wants and sometimes this makes the problem worse.
I once heard a school head teacher say to a parent ” We don’t have a bullying problem in our school.” when he was asked about the bullying policy ( I felt that this was a poor answer to the question as all schools have at least one bully, I fear).
If your child is the one doing the bullying sit down and talk to him about it.
My biggest tip is not to look him in the eye, do an activity together while chatting, such as cooking or going for a walk.
Even chatting while driving and looking at the child through the rear view mirror can work , as this is less confrontational than looking her straight in the eyes.
In recent times children have to deal with cyber bullies on social networks, such as Facebook
as well as face to face bullying.
This is something that was not around when I was growing up, something as simple as not getting enough ‘likes’ on a post can be enough reasons for bullying., as if there weren’t already too many.
Children sadly will always find reasons to bully another child; they have goofy teeth, a big nose, or a funny name.
As a child minder I had bullying written briefly into my behaviour management policy, where I stated that I didn’t tolerate physical or verbal abuse of any kind.
Try to stay calm when talking to your children about bullying.
As always questions and comments are welcome and please share on social media if you think others would like to read this.
Until next time.